My forever family

My forever family

Sunday, April 29, 2012

What a wonderful life!

Seriously, I feel like I'm in a vicious cycle. We are doing so many things throughout the week on a daily basis that it would so fun to write about, but then we are busy doing such things so I don't have time to record them. As a result, I do apologize if this post is way too long (a habit of late), and with not as many details as it needs to be.

The children started their swimming lessons again this past week. Both Gillian and Jefferson are way ready for swim team, but the time commitment is too much for me. Having them take swim lessons every day for five weeks is the closest I can come to committing to a swim team. They have loved it and their technique has improved tremendously. James especially is impressing me with his water acrobatics and diving skills. Growing up all my life by the Mediterranean Sea has made me a water lover, so to have my own kids love the water as much as I do makes me a very happy mother.

James, the dolphin

Jefferson, the shark

Gillian, the eel

On Monday, my friend Carolyn from Virginia was visiting San Francisco for work. Since she wasn't going to be around for more than one evening and a day, she asked me if I could join her for dinner in San Francisco. I was so glad to see her. I miss my Virginia friends so very much, and I'm really grateful that they come to visit me. My best friend Jenifer came two weeks ago, my other best friend, Katherine, came last summer, another friend came last spring, Carolyn has come twice already. It's about time that I went to see all of them. Carolyn, Cindy and I had season tickets each year to the Shakespeare Theater Company in Washington D.C. We had an amazing time together. Cindy and I would fight over different points of view and Carolyn would help balance our heated discussions with her peaceful comments. We decided, Carolyn and I, that when I get to visit them this year, we'll have to attend a play together. I miss arguing political and social issues, as well as aesthetics in the most sincere and amusing way ever. Shakespeare offered plenty of topics to be dealt with. But the only concern I have in going back is the disappointment I might cause to some people there. You see, there is a legend about me as the superwoman, and it's been spread by my friends and now by the friends of my friends, who possibly have never met me. Carolyn told me that they still speak of me in their circles of friends, so I'm a bit concerned that I might not live up to their expectations. If I go, I'll try to see just a few of my friends, and limit myself to that, otherwise the impossible image that they have created for me might suffer a few adjustments.

Speaking of Shakespeare, my children and I have had a week long celebration of Shakespeare's birthday. We started reading and reciting his sonnets and famous lines on Monday, April 23rd, the day of his birthday (the only known record of Shakespeare's birth is his baptism on April 26th, and since they didn't use to baptize the babies right on the the same day, the numerous biographers have settled the birth date to be that of April 23, especially since Shakespeare died on that date as well, of course 52 years later). We continued discussing his tragedies and laughing at his comedies throughout the week. On Saturday, we baked a cake and sang "Happy Birthday" to him and while eating we each read or recited something we liked of him. I have a cup that has famous Shakespearean love lines on it and that's where my boys would read from, but Gillian had brought her book and was acting out her favorite lines. If Shakespeare had been alive, he would have been very happy with our celebrations in his honor. Thank you Shakespeare for your wit and beautiful language!


On Wednesday, I accompanied Jefferson to his field trip to the Chabot Space and Science Center in Oakland. There were several new exhibitions, two of which dealt with alternative sources of energy. I really enjoyed the fact that they were trying to teach the kids about various ideas that are circulating out there in the world, until I started playing some games. I couldn't help but feel they were trying to not just inform but absolutely indoctrinate our kids with these new ideas, and putting all the other ideas we still use down. Each interactive game they had if you didn't choose the answer they wanted you to choose or thought was the best method to heat or power, then you couldn't win the game. I kept telling Jefferson, who loves to win, that sometimes you just have to stand for what you believe even if the odds are not on your favor. It was a good opportunity for me to discuss with Jefferson the value of being open minded to new ideas as well as of using common sense that it so needed nowadays. The children got to see some older exhibitions about space, which truth be told held their attention way longer than I had expected. Boys especially were hooked! Toward the end of our tour, we got to sit in the planetarium and watch a documentary on planets and our solar system, a recap of the lessons they had been learning in school. I'm so grateful I get to go with Jefferson and my other children in various school field trips. We get to have fun together, and I get to guide their learning.
On Friday, Gillian had a dentist appointment and the boys had an award assembly. They each got awards, but I wasn't able to attend since I was with Gillian at the dentist's office. After she was done, I decided I would take the boys out and make it an outing. I brought lunch, snacks, water, sand toys, towels, change of clothes, and then told the kids that we would be going to the beach. The weather wasn't as warm as it should be when you go to the beach, but we went anyways, and truly had a good time.

Jefferson and Charlton played very well together building castles and digging sand. Gillian and James were the first to get into the water. I was impressed that they wanted to go in at all, but later I encouraged them to go deeper and swim. Jefferson joined them without delay. They were the only brave ones, or the crazy ones depending on your point of view, that were attempting to swim in the ocean. Charlton's only contribution was wetting his feet.

After they had had enough of the ocean's cold water, the children tried to get warm by laying down on the warm sand as well as on some hot rocks, and then playing games with each other.

Swimming has a tendency to make you hungry, so we had the kids rinse and get dressed. After that,we set down on a picnic table and ate our lunch.
Lovingly we said "good bye" to the ocean, stopped for ice cream on the road, and then headed home right before traffic became too complicated. All in all this was quite an enjoyable day!

Our week was full of activities as well as quiet time, hard work as well as fun, reading and studying as well as games and play time, piano, swimming, running, cleaning, serving, helping, sleeping and enjoying each other. No matter what we do, we love being together.

Monday, April 23, 2012

Jefferson's 8th birthday

Last week-end was a memorable one for Jefferson. He turned 8 on Friday and then got baptized on Saturday. We had discussed with our children last year that we would celebrate their birthdays with big parties and friends every other year. So this year, we celebrated Jefferson's birthday as a family and with not much fanfare. At the moment I felt that I should have made a big deal about his 8th birthday with fun parties and lots of presents and friends, but as I looked back I knew we had made the right decision. Birthdays come every year, but baptism comes only once and as such it is a special event. Having a small family birthday party helped us enjoy each other and be ready for his other big day, his baptism. Jefferson, who loves presents and parties more than any kid I know, showed his maturity by being excited and concentrating his attention on the importance of baptism and the covenants he was going to make with Heavenly Father. I was so proud of him!

On the day of his birthday, Jefferson received many phone calls from family members around the globe, starting with his own father, who being at work called him first thing in the morning and sang to him "Happy Birthday." That made his day. Upon his return from swimming, Jefferson wanted to open presents before we took him out for dinner and games. As I said, this kid loves presents and that was the first thing he wanted to do. Each of us gave him something that connected us with him. Charlton gave him a workbook on how to write cursive (Jefferson often sits by Charlton and while Charlton "reads" to himself Jefferson practices his cursive handwriting.) James gave him a wooden boat kit (he had bought one for himself also so they could work on them, building and painting, together.) Gillian gave him a how-to-draw imaginative creatures book, since they both share the love for art and imagination. My mother gave him a pair of stylish jeans he had been wanting for a while. My mother-in-law had sent him a BYU-Idaho shirt which he put on as soon as he got it out of the box. I gave him the Mysterious Benedict Society series, with the goal of competing between myself reading it to James and Jefferson reading it to himself. The one who finishes last takes the winner out for a date. Jefferson was very excited about this, ... but not as excited when he saw what his dad had given him: a pocket knife. Boys will always be boys. The special thing about the gift was the fact that Elijah received his pocket knife when he turned eight as well, and he still has it. What a special bond!

After all of the presents were opened, we took the kids to Chuck E. Cheese's. They were so excited when we told them we were taking them there that as soon as we got there they didn't even wait to eat pizza, but went straight to play the games. My favorite part was when they would stop by our table to pick up a few tokens for Charlton. Although they were each playing on their own, they would often come and spend some time with him.
After the children used all of their tokens, they were ready to go home and have some birthday cake. Considering that they had been to school, swimming, and then to Chuck E. Cheese's, I thought they would be too tired to eat cake, but boy was I wrong. Even Charlton who was tired, waited patently as I cut the cake.

As I tucked Jefferson in that night, I shared with him my gratitude for the blessing of having him in my life. He is truly a joy to have around always wanting to do the right thing, always wanting to help me and others, and always being serious about his testimony and love for Heavenly Father. He amazes me with his natural abilities and his constant desire to do his best and try new things. He is a trustworthy friend, an amazing brother, a loving son, a pure child of God. I'm grateful for his example and for the individual he has become.

The next day Jefferson got baptized by his father and received the gift of the Holy Ghost. We had a wonderful program sharing the day with one of his Primary class mates getting baptized at the same time. For Family Home Evening on Monday we had discussed the reasons we get baptized, why did Jesus get baptized, what covenants do we make, and what promises do we receive. Elijah had printed one copy of those covenants and blessings, and Jefferson hang that piece of paper on his door. Several times I had seen him read and try to memorize those lines. When he was interviewed by the Bishop, prior to his baptism, Jefferson told me that he knew all of the answers, and not because he had memorized them but because, as he put it himself "we talk of those things everyday at home."

“We believe that the first principles and ordinances of the Gospel are: first, Faith in the Lord Jesus Christ; second, Repentance; third, Baptism by immersion for the remission of sins; fourth, Laying on of hands for the gift of the Holy Ghost.”

— 4th Article of Faith —


April 21st, 2012 – North Gate 1st Ward – Walnut Creek California Stake

Presiding Bishop Doug Bohne

Conducting Craig Williamson

Pianist Sally Anderson

Chorister Elisabeth Lambert

Opening song “Baptism”

Invocation Joseph Cavazos

Talk on Baptism Tab French

Baptism of Elasi Lorraine Cavazos by Simi Leka

Baptism of Jefferson Clayton Garmon by Elijah C. Garmon

Witnesses: Ron Paul and Bruce Devol

Special music Violin piece by Emily Lambert

“I Am a Child of God” by the Primary children

Talk on the Holy Ghost Christina Bowen

Special music “I Feel My Savior’s Love” by Gillian Garmon

Confirmation of Elasi Lorraine Cavazos by Sione Maile

Confirmation of Jefferson Clayton Garmon by Elijah C. Garmon

Closing song “When Jesus Christ Was Baptized”

Benediction Liri Mema

Happy Birthday, Jefferson, and congratulations on your baptism. You make me happy, and I love you forever.